::Love is Life::

That's been my motto forever. I'm 24, I'm a crazy, beautiful mess, and hard to figure out. Shooting stars are kinda my thing. My heart is always overflowing with love no matter what state I'm in. I'm a singer, writer, artist, gamer, reader, and photographer. The rest you'll have to just find out.

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I Love You

So I’m writing this on here because its easist for me to go back and forth between pages. I want you to knkw i am sonhappy you let me into your life and thst i was able to get to know you to the depth that i have. Excuse the lack of capital i’s, im lazy. Anyway, reading through your old blog posts made me realize you and i were more alike than i thiught. I cant believe someone who seemed as confident and looked as good as you felt “socially awkward”. You were amazing with me when i got to finally talk to you more but i guess that came with the alocohol and the fact that i was “attractive” since apparently that was easier for you. Boy am i glad im the only woman you care to be close to now. That and i dont know why youd trust wonen better considering your history and the fzct thstvwomen suck, most if them anyway. I want to acknowlege a couple things. First, regardkess of if you felt like you lacked qualities to uplift someone elses life or not, the relationships you were i were incapable of being uplifted becUse of how unhealthy they were, that it not a load you shoukd have ever carried. Now, in general i understand the feeling of not being abke to uplift someone else due to being low on yourself hiwever i have dtill always tried. Thatd where yoy and i were/are the same, constantly striving to uplift others even when we couldnt donthat for ourselves. The people you were dating however did not end the way they did because of you. I hope that you feel differently about that now.
Also, you and i have pasts that inclyde a lot of self sacrifice. I understand that comlletely and i think thats why it is so easy vor us to nit ket each other ever sacrificw our feelings and always encourage opennes and communication regarding feelings because we both dont want the ither to feel like they are sacrificing themselves.
Its funny tonread you talking about being different and lacking confidence bavk then because thsts what i saw in you. I really wish i woukd have thrown vaution to the wind and talked to you more because we woukd have been a whirlwind of lifiting each other up, but i thi k God thought it would be more important for us to lesrn how to do that on our own, but still put us i each others lives so when the right time came we would already be around each other.

I believe you dress wwonderfully, im glad you have a balance regarding family now considering all the negatives. Cotact is important until it effects your health like it was. And your sister, well i dont care if you ever contact her.

Im so glad you and i had the same problems with patience, seriously, that sloth crossing the road was spot on! You have helped me tremendously with my patience since ive kniwn you though. And i thank you for that.

Im so glad i have been abke tonhelp you give up some of your feelings of shame and open your heart. You had lingering feelings because you hadnt truly given those things to God. Not if you were still holding on to them, and i cant express to you enough how happy i am to know you thus way and to knkw those things and to be able to help you release them. You are an incredible person and i …totslly lost where i was going with that thought, but there is so much besuty in yiur heart and soul and i just admire you so much and am so thankful and lucky to have you.
And honey, if you were a pig like you say most guys are, i wouldnt be with you, so i reslly hope you dont think of yourself thst way, or that there sre things yiu arent telking me… lol
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Im so proud and exvited to be a part if your fitness revolution! Haha!,
Saaaaaasaaaaaaame here. In regsrds to feeling like i always had to fight for things, thst that feeling woykd never go away. Youbsaw that part if me come out with you. I fought toith and nail with the chris thing. THAT was worth it. Would do that over smd over. You and i both fought fornthe wrong people in the past. Inclufing sfter you wrote that. But we bith learned and were able to mucb easier get ourselves out of those situstions jnstead of letting ourselves fester in them. You jniw, younwere guarded when i met you, even a bit at the new years party, as you admitted with the intimidation factor…but you were still awesome! I was with you too though as i just admitred in the car. You and i both broje free from that and continued to grow as individuaks until wr finalky came together. And man did we come together beautifully!
The thing is that we still had to ve wrong a ciupke more times. I thoughf chris was the right decisuon at the time, i thought all that was a good durection change and stuff but i was wtong. Im pretty sure yoy wete dating melussa when you wrote that. And you were wtong agsin too. That was a bad fight, abd another lesson leatned.im not sure if thsts who you were referencing in thwt or not, but it makes the most ti eline sense. Ill admit its weird reafinv you tslj sbout soneone else like thst. Im glaf THAT wadntbwhat you were fighting fir alk aling begore you kbew it existed. Im gkad i was thst person and that i blew everyone else away. Im glad you had to go through that stress again begore ne vecause it made ME the one that took that stress away fir goid. But so you did think thst soneobe else might be it… thats ok though, as long as i was the quicjest, most intensr, and the only one you avtuslky said it to, consideting yoy alrwafy gad me believing thst.
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Im glad i read all this about you. Makes me know yoy even better and understand that you and i do hsve oyr differences thst we can use yo hekp balanceceach other, but thst we also have so so much in common and such similar pasts of stress snd fighting and depression and ups and diwns that we can truly understand eachbothet on a kevel that no obe else coukd ever touch. I do wish i woyld have kniwn alk thst aboyt yoy gsvk then and falken into you mire, but like i said, regsrdkess of thst beibg what i wanted fir my llife, God had ither olans for us first, but we still ended up together when he wanted us to. You are the most increfible oerson i havevever known, you have chanfed my life in so many ways. From helping me disvover the rightboath for mysrkfm to helping ne find balance, to makunf me feel more orotected and loved and dared for than i ever thought pissible. I thank you for being exavtly eho you are and for shating your kufe with me. I truly dedicate all if me to you firever. You are unconditionslky my soul mste. Thank you for chsnging my lufe, helping me grow even more than i had, and for being exactky what i wantef abd needed. Thank you for letting me in to everynarea of your beautiful hesrt and fir inckuding me in every area of your life. I love you with everythibg i have

Sep 18th, 2014
causewecool:

spankmeagainplease:
Feel free to sexually harass me if you’re male. You know what they say “Boys will be boys.”. Although I’m not sure any of you will want to do that since I’m not very modest, therefore not attractive.--------The new principal at my school used two phrases while addressing new dress code rules to a class."Modest is hottest." and "Boys will be boys."He should have said something more along the lines of: “The school dress code was established to provide our students with a safe and orderly learning environment that is free from distractions.”Let’s start with the phrase “Modest is hottest.” Shall we?Modest-Having or showing a moderate estimation of one’s own talents, abilities, and value.If modest is hottest, then it’s not modest.You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies. A human has the right to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Showing less skin doesn’t make you any more attractive. Showing more skin does not make you any less attractive. When someone calls you attractive that just means that they are attracted to you.At what point in your career did you find it appropriate to define my “hotness”? Why are you at all concerned with how “hot” I am? You are teaching us, through modesty, to be objects of sexual arousal. I’m sorry, but I don’t dress myself to look “hot” for anyone. I dress myself as a way of expressing myself and my body. “If covering up my body is supposed to make people sexually/physically attracted to me, then how would those people feel if I decide to have sexual relations with them, without clothes on?” “How am I supposed to love and feel proud of my naked body and develop a sense of sexuality when exposing my body is deemed shameful and unattractive?” Since when should being “hot” be my concern. I don’t want to be with someone who just thinks I’m hot. I want to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of my mind, personality, and body. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “How to be hot.”.My body is not a sinful temptation that needs to be hidden. My body is not your personal, sexual object. My body does not overshadow my character. My body is not any more sexual than a man’s body. My body is not here to look “hot” for you.Next up is “Boys will be boys.”Being a boy refers to your gender. That’s all.It does not make you constantly sexually aroused, animalistic, or sexually uncontrollable, but for some reason society has come to the conclusion that you are this stereotype. This is extremely sad. This gender stereotype is unfair to all men. By telling them who they are as a man you are absolutely taking away their moral agency. “But he’s a teenager. He’s raging with hormones.” You don’t think I’m raging with hormones as well? Believe me I am. Men are not stupid. They are not unable to see when someone is not consenting to sex. It’s not ‘in their nature’ to rape because they are a man, it’s not ‘in their nature’ because IT’S WRONG TO RAPE SOMEONE. Raping someone is a cognitive choice. (how modestly the victim dresses does not affect them being raped). When the few people that do sexually harass people happen to be male and you use the excuse “Boys will be boys.” you are not only excusing their behavior, you are condoning it. It’s this “Boys will be boys.” mentality, culture, and attitude that condone sexual assault. Whenever the excuse “Boys will be boys.” is used, it’s just an exercise of male privilege. It’s this attitude that condones sexual assault. You are giving them a free license that makes it okay for them to be sexually violent, that says “Well I’m a boy, it’s just who I am.” Sex needs to stop being about “no no no bad dirty gross shameful” and start being about “Yes. Let’s have consenting sex because I want to.” Consent. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “Well you know how they are… Boys will be boys!” Boys are not sexually uncontrollable.Boys do not have a genetic, animalistic, violent nature.Boys are not born with a natural desire for destruction or control.Despite what society and culture keeps trying to cram down everyone’s throat, having a penis doesn’t make it okay to sexually harass someone. The false idea that men can’t control themselves is so unfair and completely ridiculous.


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The next day He called me down to his office to discuss my concerns. (Students and teachers told him about it, which I expected)




I spent a good hour and a half arguing with the principle about his comments when he called me down to his office, today. I offered to send him what I posted if he was interested in reading it. He said “No, that won’t be necessary.” I explained to him that I wanted him to read what I wrote and I would appreciate it if he did. He said “No, I don’t really care to read it. That’s okay.”I asked him what he meant by the phrase “boys will be boys” and he explained that if a girl is inappropriately dressed that it can lead to inappropriate, sexual touching and staring (sexual harassment). If a boy chooses to sexually harass someone, it’s his choice no matter what his gender is.He explained to me that boys are more “wound up” than girls are. I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that so I asked him for a different adjective and after a minute of mumbling he chose the word “aggressive” but then followed that up with “…well I don’t think that’s the correct word to use…”. I agree, not the best word to use, eh? I asked him to explain why boys are different than girls in this regard and he said “Well to start, all boys are attracted to girls…” I interrupted with “No. There are actually boys who are attracted to other boys.” He laughed and said “Oh, yes of course!”… I guess that part must have slipped his mind.I asked him, in general, what the difference is between girls and boys. He said that boys “misbehave more” and are “outgoing”. He said that girls are “reserved”. That’s all. That’s the word he used, “reserved”. Boys and girls are different because they have different organs and hormones. Being a girl doesn’t automatically make me reserved. Just like being a boy doesn’t make you automatically misbehave. I explained to him that by using the phrase “Boys will be boys.”, he is excusing and condoning bad behavior from boys, such as sexual harassment and rape. “But that’s not reality, that’s your opinion.” he said. He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” I told him that the phrases he used were sexist and stereotypical and unfair to all genders. I explained to him that many students and people of society were offended by what he said and the phrases he used. I told him that I thought he should apologize for what he said and explain to students and society that this kind of message is not okay or appropriate.He said he wouldn’t apologize for that, but he would give me an apology, which was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” After he dodged almost every question I asked by sharing his plans to improve LHS, he decided that he had had enough of not being able to answer my questions or concerns and ended our discussion by saying “I’m going to end this discussion.” and I was sent back to class.



There is so much wrong with what this principal is doing that I can’t even list it, but yeah here’s your takeaway:
He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” 
They are disrespectful because you have specifically told them they can do whatever they want and you will excuse it because they’re boys!
Lakeland Senior High School and his name is Mr. Martinez

causewecool:

spankmeagainplease:

Feel free to sexually harass me if you’re male. You know what they say “Boys will be boys.”. Although I’m not sure any of you will want to do that since I’m not very modest, therefore not attractive.
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The new principal at my school used two phrases while addressing new dress code rules to a class.

"Modest is hottest." and "Boys will be boys."

He should have said something more along the lines of: “The school dress code was established to provide our students with a safe and orderly learning environment that is free from distractions.”

Let’s start with the phrase “Modest is hottest.” Shall we?

Modest-Having or showing a moderate estimation of one’s own talents, abilities, and value.

If modest is hottest, then it’s not modest.

You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies. A human has the right to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Showing less skin doesn’t make you any more attractive. Showing more skin does not make you any less attractive. When someone calls you attractive that just means that they are attracted to you.

At what point in your career did you find it appropriate to define my “hotness”? Why are you at all concerned with how “hot” I am? You are teaching us, through modesty, to be objects of sexual arousal. I’m sorry, but I don’t dress myself to look “hot” for anyone. I dress myself as a way of expressing myself and my body. “If covering up my body is supposed to make people sexually/physically attracted to me, then how would those people feel if I decide to have sexual relations with them, without clothes on?” “How am I supposed to love and feel proud of my naked body and develop a sense of sexuality when exposing my body is deemed shameful and unattractive?” Since when should being “hot” be my concern. I don’t want to be with someone who just thinks I’m hot. I want to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of my mind, personality, and body. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “How to be hot.”.

My body is not a sinful temptation that needs to be hidden. 
My body is not your personal, sexual object. 
My body does not overshadow my character. 
My body is not any more sexual than a man’s body. 
My body is not here to look “hot” for you.

Next up is “Boys will be boys.”

Being a boy refers to your gender. That’s all.

It does not make you constantly sexually aroused, animalistic, or sexually uncontrollable, but for some reason society has come to the conclusion that you are this stereotype. This is extremely sad. This gender stereotype is unfair to all men. By telling them who they are as a man you are absolutely taking away their moral agency. “But he’s a teenager. He’s raging with hormones.” You don’t think I’m raging with hormones as well? Believe me I am. Men are not stupid. They are not unable to see when someone is not consenting to sex. It’s not ‘in their nature’ to rape because they are a man, it’s not ‘in their nature’ because IT’S WRONG TO RAPE SOMEONE. Raping someone is a cognitive choice. (how modestly the victim dresses does not affect them being raped). When the few people that do sexually harass people happen to be male and you use the excuse “Boys will be boys.” you are not only excusing their behavior, you are condoning it. It’s this “Boys will be boys.” mentality, culture, and attitude that condone sexual assault. Whenever the excuse “Boys will be boys.” is used, it’s just an exercise of male privilege. It’s this attitude that condones sexual assault. You are giving them a free license that makes it okay for them to be sexually violent, that says “Well I’m a boy, it’s just who I am.” Sex needs to stop being about “no no no bad dirty gross shameful” and start being about “Yes. Let’s have consenting sex because I want to.” Consent. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “Well you know how they are… Boys will be boys!” 

Boys are not sexually uncontrollable.
Boys do not have a genetic, animalistic, violent nature.
Boys are not born with a natural desire for destruction or control.

Despite what society and culture keeps trying to cram down everyone’s throat, having a penis doesn’t make it okay to sexually harass someone. The false idea that men can’t control themselves is so unfair and completely ridiculous.
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The next day He called me down to his office to discuss my concerns. (Students and teachers told him about it, which I expected)
I spent a good hour and a half arguing with the principle about his comments when he called me down to his office, today. I offered to send him what I posted if he was interested in reading it. He said “No, that won’t be necessary.” I explained to him that I wanted him to read what I wrote and I would appreciate it if he did. He said “No, I don’t really care to read it. That’s okay.”

I asked him what he meant by the phrase “boys will be boys” and he explained that if a girl is inappropriately dressed that it can lead to inappropriate, sexual touching and staring (sexual harassment). If a boy chooses to sexually harass someone, it’s his choice no matter what his gender is.
He explained to me that boys are more “wound up” than girls are. I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that so I asked him for a different adjective and after a minute of mumbling he chose the word “aggressive” but then followed that up with “…well I don’t think that’s the correct word to use…”. I agree, not the best word to use, eh? 

I asked him to explain why boys are different than girls in this regard and he said “Well to start, all boys are attracted to girls…” I interrupted with “No. There are actually boys who are attracted to other boys.” He laughed and said “Oh, yes of course!”… I guess that part must have slipped his mind.

I asked him, in general, what the difference is between girls and boys. He said that boys “misbehave more” and are “outgoing”. He said that girls are “reserved”. That’s all. That’s the word he used, “reserved”. Boys and girls are different because they have different organs and hormones. Being a girl doesn’t automatically make me reserved. Just like being a boy doesn’t make you automatically misbehave. I explained to him that by using the phrase “Boys will be boys.”, he is excusing and condoning bad behavior from boys, such as sexual harassment and rape. “But that’s not reality, that’s your opinion.” he said. 

He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” 

I told him that the phrases he used were sexist and stereotypical and unfair to all genders. I explained to him that many students and people of society were offended by what he said and the phrases he used. I told him that I thought he should apologize for what he said and explain to students and society that this kind of message is not okay or appropriate.

He said he wouldn’t apologize for that, but he would give me an apology, which was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” 

After he dodged almost every question I asked by sharing his plans to improve LHS, he decided that he had had enough of not being able to answer my questions or concerns and ended our discussion by saying “I’m going to end this discussion.” and I was sent back to class.
There is so much wrong with what this principal is doing that I can’t even list it, but yeah here’s your takeaway:

He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.”

They are disrespectful because you have specifically told them they can do whatever they want and you will excuse it because they’re boys!

Lakeland Senior High School and his name is Mr. Martinez

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Jan 20th, 2014

vintagegal:

Rolling Stone “Star Wars Goes On Vacation” photo shoot promoting “Return Of The Jedi” in 1983.

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fuckyeahbostonterriers:

Duncan, Christmas 2012

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Duncan, Christmas 2012

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Sep 24th, 2013

Video Game In Colors.

Inspired by : (x)

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Aug 18th, 2013
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thecakebar:

Nutella Espresso Ice Cream (in Spanish/Google Translate)

  • 3 ingredients only

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Aug 18th, 2013

loregasmic:

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rabbitorahabit:

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PIZZA NACHOS

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I literally moaned out when I was swallowing my drool.
I’m a little bit hungry.

If you think Kit-Kats are good in brownies, try Twix.

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Aug 18th, 2013

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Aug 18th, 2013